“The Enneagram is the most accurate and helpful personality system I know.

But it can be very confusing. That’s why I’ve created a unique way to teach you this empowering knowledge.”


Here are 8 reasons to seriously consider learning to be an Enneagram Coach—the InnerLifeSkills way. 

The Enneagram is a powerful liberating personality typing system.


The Enneagram doesn’t put you in a box

I understand you might feel resistant to a personality typing system that labels and defines you. When I first came across the Enneagram, I was very skeptical, I felt like I’d studied so many personality typing methods, and was really just “done” with that. But, when I looked a little deeper at the Enneagram, I was shocked at the depth and accuracy of it.

The Enneagram doesn’t put you in a box!

It shows you the box that you are already in so that you can get free.

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Every wave in the ocean is unique, that is true.

We are all also unique, individualized expression of the ocean of life.  And it is also true that we could study the patterns of the waves, and see these patterns.

Carl Gustav Jung the famous Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst who founded analytical psychology made popular the term “Archetypes” for the patterns of human personality and character that arise from the collective unconscious. When we study the Enneagram, we are studying the archetypal patterns of personality.

The Enneagram gives you the keys to understand yourself and others!

If you enjoy understanding what makes people tick, then you will enjoy how accurate and in-depth the Enneagram is. In a way, the Enneagram gives us a blueprint for personality AND a map for our growth.

Think of each Enneagram type as a personality operating system. If we don’t understand our operating systems, we might struggle and suffer. By learning how our operating system works, we can get the most from it, and can even learn how to upgrade it.

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The Enneagram shows us the REASONS for behaviour!

Many people make the mistake of thinking that the Enneagram is based on behaviour, but it’s not.

In fact, this leads to many mistyping mistakes and can also make the Enneagram far too confusing.

The ILS way of teaching the Enneagram emphasizes that the Enneagram types are formed around hidden factors that we are born with, InnerLifeSkills calls these “The Grains of Sand” in the personality pearl.

We label them as RED, BLUE and GREEN. This is our way of showing that the 9 types all arise from a primary 3 grains of sand.

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The oyster coats the irritant, the grain of sand with mother of pearl, to eventually form a pearl.

Just so, the grain of sand in the personality is the REASON for the personality.

To understand the Enneagram well, and to declutter it (because it can seem so complex), we need only study and deeply understand the grains of sand.

Each type is a movement from the grain of sand.

Here is an example of why this is important. If I ask a class of my online students to raise their hands if they enjoy occasionally helping people, they all put their hands up. Helping is a behaviour.

Now, Type 2 is often called “The Helper” or “The Giver” which is a behaviour. And so everyone thinks “I might be a 2”. But here is how the grains of sand come into play.

We all can help, but WHY do we help? The reason is hidden and is different for us all.

All 9 types can be helpful, but each of the 9 types has a different underlying hidden unconscious reason for their helping.

  • 1 might help to do the right thing.
  • 2 might help to feel needed.
  • 3 might help to prove that they can.
  • 4 might help to feel special.
  • 5 might help to share their knowledge.
  • 6 might help to be of service.
  • 7 might help to alleviate pain.
  • 8 might help to be in charge.
  • 9 might help to bring peace.

So learn the grains of sand, then you will see why each type does what it does. This is a powerful insight into people, relationships and personal development.

People LOVE the Enneagram!

People really do love the Enneagram. That’s why we started including the foundation studies in ILS Apple Tree course. As life coaches and trainers, it’s essential to understand our clients and the Enneagram really helps with this.

Also, if you want a lovely authentic way to help people, and to get them interested in being coached, then the Enneagram is a very helpful icebreaker and entry point into life and business coaching.

Don’t forget to collect a copy of our free Enneagram Coach ebook here.

Learn to type people without needing to use unreliable tests!

Not many people are aware of the fact that even the best Enneagram online tests have a 50-60% accuracy. It’s not like a Myers Briggs test for example that is highly accurate. Compare these 2 scenarios.

1 – TESTS: A person does an online test and has a 50/50 chance of being typed properly. They get a report which tells them their type and explains what that means.

2- COACHED: A person learns the Enneagram foundation in 1-3 hours. ILS have created a method for teaching this in a simple format using our 3 Personality Pearls and our Enneagram guide and cards. They now have the gift of knowledge. And then they are coached, by an ILS Enneagram Coach, to work out their OWN type.

So they are part of the entire process. This produces approximately 95% accuracy in the first session, and future sessions usually iron out any early mistyping.

The client leaves with an accurate type that they understand well, a map for their growth and the gift of a foundation Enneagram knowledge.

We prefer this method and our ILS Enneagram Coaches learn to offer this.

Improve relationships at work and at home.

When we understand our personality operating systems we gain compassion, insight and understanding for each other. This is key to building healthy happy relationships.


By learning about the ILS Personality Pearls, we see why our loved ones and work colleagues do what they do.

Can you imagine what a gift that is? To really see why someone is speaking or acting in a certain way.

It can be humbling and helpful to realize that others do things for very different reasons than our own.

If you want to motivate change you need to be able to speak directly to others “reasons“, not from yours.


Grow your Apple Tree.

The ILS symbol for our natural self, the authentic purposeful expression of us, is the apple tree.

The Enneagram is a very helpful tool for growing our apple trees. It gives us a map for our blind spots and how to reclaim our wholeness. To be all we were born to be.


Offer Enneagram Coaching Professionally

We train people just like you to become professional ILS Enneagram Coaches. To offer Enneagram typing sessions and Enneagram coaching.

If you are interested in this, let us know. We run 3 online webinar courses per year. Click the button below to enquire about pricing and dates. Please note classes fill up quickly, enroll at least 3 weeks prior to courses starting to secure your place.


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