Enneagram Type 4’s Personality Pearl
As a type four, my grain of sand in my personality pearl is heart, worth and exaggeration.
This means that the reason for my behavior is driven by my heart, by emotional need.
Whether I’m conscious of this or not, the decisions I make and the movements that I take in life are driven primarily from my heart.
Even if my mind and my gut are involved, it is my heart that is the primary centre of gravity for me.
So, what do we mean by Enneagram Type 4 being a heart-type?
Because my emotional needs are so strong for me, I might even exaggerate my emotions.
And at my lowest expressions there can be tsunamis of emotions, where emotions become theatrical.
My real emotions are always safely hidden.
But on the surface they can be a storm of moodiness.
My needs become dramatic.
It’s all about me.
It’s all about my feelings and what I need emotionally.
And my search for identity is my search for worth.
Now if I’ve discovered or decided that being different establishes me as worthy, I’m going to continue to exaggerate that I have a different point of view, that I’m standing apart.
Sometimes this means that I might dress differently. Other times I might dress in a conservative way.
But know that effort is going to be put into my showing you that I am unique and special.
Being special is very important to me because specialness and uniqueness go together.
Enneagram Type 4’s Key Words
I am an individual and I’m searching for my individuality.
This is central to my emotional needs.
I’m actually looking for my identity and I’m trying on different emotional textures, just like a theatre performer will try on different acting roles.
I’m also experimenting with deep emotion and different creative expressions of my feelings.
I have a creative way of seeing things. That doesn’t mean I’m necessarily artistic. Sometimes I can be artistic and have some kind of creative flair.
But I tend to just move through life looking at things differently, and the atmosphere is always very sensitive to me.
I’m actually quite a sensitive soul and I find myself swinging from great extremes of emotions.
In fact when I learn the Enneagram, I tend to identify with the worst characteristics of most types.
Of course, I don’t like the Enneagram, because I don’t want to be put into a box. But it’s quite healthy for me to realize my Enneagram personality so that I can watch for my blind spots.
Sometimes I feel like an outsider looking into the world.
I can even feel envious. Just like someone out in the cold looks through a window at people inside sitting at the fireplace.
I might believe my own story about how ‘other people got better than me.’
If I discover that my wound helps me to be seen as unique I cling to my wound and I nurture it.
I might even wear my pain on my sleeve.
It takes a lot for me to learn to realize that my wound is part of my story and that I’m more than my story.
I have a rich fantasy life and there is depth to me.
I’m attracted to things that have depth, to the harder, broken and tragic emotional currencies of life.
I’m always looking for ways to express my emotions through subtle words.
I can look for words to capture my emotions but it’s difficult to find a word that really expresses my feelings as deeply as I feel them.
Type 4’s Lowest Expression
I’m very sensitive to the subtle things in life.
I’m a ‘sensitive soul.’
At my lowest expression, I take on the worst of characteristics of type 2. This can make me needy, clingy and also looking for people to save who are more broken than I am.
I might even decide that I am special because I’m helping you.
Type 4’s Highest Expression
At my highest expression I access the best of type 1. Which is very difficult for me.
I have realized that feelings are not facts.
I’ve decided to be healthy and functional.
I’m learning to channel my sensitivity, my emotions and possibly my creativity into something functional.
I want to be a functioning working part of society.
I am willing to heal my wound in order to finally know my wholeness.
I realize that I am already unique, I don’t need to display emotion or cling to wounding in order to feel that way.
I discover my true self and it completes me so much that I feel secure in this.
And my life becomes orderly and structured and functional. I no longer need to bend the rules or feel entitled in order to serve me.
I can stand guilt-free as a contributing member of the world, able to bring my unique way of seeing things to life.
That is type 4.