Ennegram Type 8’s Personality Pearl
As an Enneagram Type 8 my grain of sand, in my personality pearl is gut, anger, and resistance.
I am moved very much in my life by instinct.
My body seems to know what it likes, what it doesn’t like.
I can decide in 20 seconds or less, perhaps 2 seconds whether I like someone or whether I don’t, whether I agree or whether I don’t.
It’s a primal type of instinct that arises.
So, what do we mean that Enneagram Type 8 is an anger type?
I’m trying to be strong.
And I get angry when my effort to be strong is threatened.
Weakness makes me irritated and angry, or protective (if I see the weakness as justified). And I resist weakness.
I resist weakness in myself and others because vulnerability for me is the greatest of impacts and I don’t want to be impacted in that way.
So instead, I’m trying to be strong, and my body and my gut is serving me in my strength.
I have sharp instincts.
My anger and my irritation tend to ooze out like a mist.
My presence is commanding in this way.
And I don’t mind that you see my anger because it displays my strength.
Ennegram Type 8’s Key Words
I’m going to resist reality unconsciously or consciously.
I want to impose my will on reality in order to stay strong and in control.
Weakness is not an option for me so I’m going to keep impacting reality in order to stay strong and to not appear weak and not to be weak.
In fact, I don’t mind how you see me. It doesn’t bother me.
So this is not about how I am seen. It is how am I being and how I feel in my gut.
I have a presence about me that can be intimidating, and I don’t mind that. I don’t mind intimidating you. Because if you’re weak, I’m not interested anyway.
Unless you’re someone that I feel protective over, then your weakness is probably going to irritate me.
I’m very here and very now.
I want to command and take charge because that is my nature. It’s as if I was built for the battlefields of life.
So I want it to be my way or the highway.
It’s my will that is strongly wired to my instincts.
So I’ll show you, I’ll lead you, I’ll tell you how we need to get things done.
And I don’t want to faff with 5000 little details and concerns and weaknesses.
I am very decisive and I enjoy being decisive. If you’re not decisive, it’s going to irk me and irritate me.
I have incredible focus when I need to and I choose what to do when I want to do it and if I don’t want to do it, I won’t.
It’s all about power for me because power is a way not to feel vulnerable.
Picture Type 8 on the Enneagram…
If you look at my InnerLifeSkills cartoon, you will see I stand in the position of the warrior.
- I have my war paint on.
- I have my angry face which is natural for me.
- I have a sword painted on my chest.
- I am showing you I am in charge.
This is not a fake appearance. I feel this in my gut and in my body. I am built in this way.
And it’s my job to move to my highest expression in life.
Type 8 Lowest Expression
At my lowest expression this can go so far that my instinctive response to betrayal is to take exacting revenge. It’s only at my highest expressions that revenge won’t be enacted.
Simply I will cut someone out of my life and not have anything to do with them if they betrayed me. They are dead to me.
It is all about my way.
I want to master my life and be the master.
I don’t mind following the rules if they agree with my instincts. I’m happy to break the rules if they agree with my instincts or with what I want.
But when I decide the way it is, that’s the way it is.
And I’m happy to challenge you and to challenge anyone who takes on my will and authority.
I don’t like showing you my tears because that would be showing my vulnerability.
I enjoy winning and I’m a natural strategist. For me war is sport.
I was built for the battlefield so I have a natural way of seeing the path to victory.
It frustrates me when people just don’t get on with it.
I am extremely resourceful and I know how to get things done.
I can be very impatient because I struggle with why people also just don’t get on board or listen to me.
I am very direct and sometimes I am shocked at how people are hurt by what I’ve said or how I’ve said things.
I don’t mean to be hurtful. If I did mean to hurt someone, I would make sure it was done properly.
So in day to day interactions I cannot understand why I hurt people’s feelings when I’m just getting to the point and being direct.
I value honesty and directness.
If you want to approach me, I’ll respect you more if you are direct than if you try to go around the corner and over the hill in order to have me see your point of view.
At my worst expression I tend to take on board the worst characteristics of type 5, which is my stress point.
When I am stressed I need to be alone.
I want to be alone to protect you from me because I know my words can be like swords and I can cut people and I feel like I can destroy people very easily.
Sometimes being alone is my way of processing and coping with my intense anger.
Other times it’s also because being alone allows me to decompress.
When I’m angry I retreat. I can then plan and look at the battlefield from a strategic point of view.
Enneagram Type 8 Highest Expression
At my highest expression, which is my growth path, I take the best characteristics of type 2.
This is the most difficult thing to do because 2 is my polarity.
The heart for me is weakness. My own feelings and other people’s feelings can threaten me. But it is my growth path.
When I embody my own heart and when I learn compassion and open my heart, I find my highest empowered enlightened expression.
- I become a benevolent, generous leader.
- I step into real power because I embrace vulnerability and I realize my vulnerability gives me strength.
- I’m protective and strong and a natural leader with compassion and with a very big heart.
This enables me to feel whole in my life, to feel connected, and to feel deeply, deeply nourished on the inside.
When I access type 2, my heart is in service to my sword.
This is the highest expression of the type 8 on the Enneagram.